With Valentine’s Day around the corner, we are presented with a beautiful opportunity to practice self-love. Not just a holiday to shower our partner (and be showered!) with flowers and chocolates, Valentine’s Day invites us to contemplate how deep our love really goes for ourselves.
Self-love is often an afterthought during our day when we’re so busy “doing,” achieving, and maintaining our careers, families and other relationships. Yet, when we can learn to prioritize self-love amidst the chaos of life – tapping into our inner reservoir of understanding, acceptance, and compassion on a dime – we can strengthen all of our relationships, enhance our mental health, and increase our ability to thrive no matter the circumstance.
This Valentine’s Day, whether you have big romantic plans, or you plan to cozy up with friends or by yourself, see if you can squeeze in a mini (yet powerful) self-love practice – just for you – to honor the most important relationship you have.
Self-Love Practice To Be Your Best Valentine
- You will need a journal, pen, cozy place, and favorite flower essential oil (Rose, Chamomile, Ylang Ylang, Lavender, etc), for this practice.
- Find a quiet, cozy place and gather the above materials.
- Take your favorite flower essential oil (Rose is preferable for this assignment since it is the flower of unconditional love and self-acceptance) – and mix 3-8 drops with one tablespoon of carrier oil (Olive Oil, Avocado
Oil, Almond Oil, Sunflower Oil, etc) to create a small amount of massage oil.
- Gently massage the oil mixture behind the ears and into the neck, chest, and heart center. Inhale the gorgeous floral aroma as it awakens the energy of the heart, emotions, and self-love.
- Begin to write a short but sweet “love letter” to yourself – in whatever style you please – focusing on the obvious, most lovable things and going deeper to the subtleties.
- See if you can find love for the “imperfections,” noting them as well.
- Once you finish your letter, read it back to yourself as you place your hand on your heart.
- Carry your letter on you for the following week so you can keep it fresh in your mind throughout your day, and sleep with it under your pillow or at your bedside each evening so it’s top of mind when you arise.
You can use your letter as a “manifesto” to remind you of all the wonderful things about you as you navigate the moments of your day – moments where you may doubt your lovability or be temporarily thrown off course. The point is not perfection; it’s to have tools on hand to support a “self-love mindset” when that would not be your ordinary instinct. Overtime, the self-love response becomes more and more second nature as the letter becomes a part of the way you “speak” to yourself inside.